Asexuality Is Real, Valid, and Worth Celebrating—Every Damn Day

Today is International Asexuality Day, and I want to use my voice—not to speak for ace folks, but to stand with them. I’m not asexual. I’m gay. But being part of the LGBTQIA+ umbrella means showing up for the whole acronym—not just the letters that apply to me.

Asexuality is one of the most misunderstood and overlooked identities in the queer spectrum. And let’s be honest: it’s not because ace folks aren’t trying to be heard—it’s because too many people are unwilling to listen.

So let me be crystal clear:

• Asexuality is real.
• Asexual people are not broken.
• They are not confused.
• They are not “just shy” or “late bloomers” or “waiting for the right person.”
• They are complete, whole, and valid—exactly as they are.

Too often, ace folks are erased from conversations about pride, identity, love, and belonging. Too often, their experiences are interrogated or dismissed with the kind of smug certainty that only ignorance can fuel. That’s not okay. It never was. It never will be.

And if you call yourself an ally—or part of the LGBTQIA+ community—and you’re still side-eyeing ace folks or treating them like an afterthought? It’s time to level up.

Being ace isn’t about lacking something. It’s not about what someone doesn’t feel. It’s about who they are—and how they navigate a world that often demands attraction, romance, or sex as proof of humanity. And yet ace people show up in that world every day, carving out space, demanding recognition, and living their truths out loud. That’s courage.

So today, I’m celebrating ace joy. Ace pride. Ace resistance. I’m honoring the beauty of self-knowledge, of people who live authentically in a world that constantly tells them they’re “not enough” just because they don’t fit the expected mold.

To my ace friends, mutuals, readers, and strangers: You are more than enough. You belong here, not as a footnote, but as a full chapter in the queer story. And if anyone tries to erase you, I’ll be standing next to you with a permanent marker and a bullhorn.

Let’s celebrate asexuality with the love, dignity, and pride it deserves—not just today, but every day.

In Solidarity, Always

– Ryder